Review: This book is centered on highlighting the differences between self-esteem and self-acceptance. This is done through the examination of religious, psychological and philosophical teachings that include those of the Dali Lama, Lao Tsu, Carl Rogers and Nietzsche. Ellis points out that self-esteem is potentially harmful to ones well being, in that it is dependent on external approval. Self-acceptance, however, is unconditional. The emotional benefits of what Ellis terms unconditional self-acceptance and unconditional other acceptance are described. Rational Emotive Behavioral techniques are then taught to the reader, for the purpose of assisting one in the process of becoming more self-accepting.

 

I would recommend this book as a resource for adult clients that struggle with low self-esteem or low self-acceptance or for clients who are perfectionistic. It offers a fresh perspective on how to work with these issues. As such, I would particularly recommend the book for clients who have unsuccessfully worked on such issues in therapy in the past. One caveat with this book is that Ellis’ interpretation of religious teachings may offend some individuals.